A couple of days ago I received the following question via email:
I am interested in giving myself hypnotic suggestions for therapeutic purposes. Any chance of seeing how you give suggestions to yourself?
And this video addresses just that!
PLEASE NOTE: I reference another video – Hypnosis in Everyday Life – which I have not put up yet (the sound got corrupted and I need to re-record it, so it will be coming soon)!
httpv://youtu.be/4aaRBqDITs4
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20 Comments
Hubert
June 23, 2013Hi James, how do you deal with thoughts (self-suggestions) which come up that you don’t like/don’t want?
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June 25, 2013That is an excellent question indeed!
I greet them mindfully and with equanimity. I gently question them. I ask myself where they might have come from. I ask myself whether the thought is supporting me. I look at the key operating concepts and ponder where else they are at play in my life. I decide if the operating concepts could do with ‘re-engineering’. I ‘re-engineer’ them if they do.
If there is something that I want to bring into my life that the old thought had been responsible for keeping out, a structure a new thought, constructed of empowering language, that is all about bringing it in.
I am going to carve out some time to create some deeper audios on this topic.
Best
James
Heather
June 24, 2013A must-watch for musicians….
Love,
Heather
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June 25, 2013Thanks Heather!
Stay well!
James
Michael Levine
June 24, 2013Hi James
I’ve just seen your latest video and it was very good!, I think the things you said reminded me of Emile coure,s book ” self mastery through conscious autosuggestion”, which I’m reading at the moment..
Grazie
Mike
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June 25, 2013Hi Michael
I have never read Coue… always meant to, but never have. I think I’ll see what there is in Audiobook format (that way I can read whilst out walking 🙂 )
Best
James
Dave Isherwood
June 24, 2013Hi James
This reminder comes at a good time for me. There is great value in going back and revisiting the basics from time to time and being aware of my own thoughts and language is a lesson I have played with but not yet mastered. So thanks for directing my attention back to this skill.
It is also a skill that could be a valuable addition for many children. Having 2 family members working in schools, I hear many accounts of children who are having problems where a ‘simple’ shift in the way they are thinking would make a big, big difference.
Dave
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June 25, 2013Hi Dave
I started to create a product covering this some months back, but I went ‘too far down the rabbit hole’ with it. At some point I will probably re-visit it, tidy it up and make it fit for human consumption.
With children, I think one of the greatest gifts you can give them is the gift of resourceful thinking that supports them in leading fulfilled and fulfilling lives.
Best
James
owen
June 24, 2013I couldn´t agree more regarding self hypnosis! – a massive percentage of it goes on at an unintentional level. I had a similar experience to what you describe with NLP – it was metaphorically akin to wearing a set of blinkers and being completely unaware of it, until one day I was able to take them off, see a whole lot more options, and pick better ones!
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June 25, 2013That’s an area of fascination for me, Owen – how some take the ideas and concepts of NLP and immediately apply them in their own thinking, whilst others don’t.
An exploration in progress!
Best
James
John
June 24, 2013Great work James! Question, what are your strategies to modify a clients expectation that such change as you spoke of in the video is their responsibility, but they visit a hypnotherapist with the expectation of being a passive recipient of a single “therapy” that will override their current thinking rather than what i believe is more realistic, a modification of their self generated talk with its associated change in personal reality.
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June 25, 2013That’s a good question John.
These days I find the best way is to not play the hypnotherapy frame at all (see the message on the Life Change page).
I’ll get a video or audio up on this one John, as it is too much to outline here!
J
Andrea
June 25, 2013I’m working to change my ‘old story’ – because I’m fed up with the self-imposed limitations.
I’ve been consciously doing this throughout each day for several days now. It’s like filling a bucket using a dripping tap. Not much to show. A bit of damp in the bottom and I’m between ‘won’t work!’ and ‘it might, keep going!’ Then – the change starts to ‘fill the bucket’. I’m finding it to be fascinating. I just wish I could have been fascinated and trusting a lot sooner… Still, now I’ve got lots of new ways to see and explore.
Thanks, James. The video gave me useful insight and a fillip to my confidence.
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June 28, 2013Hi Andrea
That’s great! You could think of self hypnosis as a ‘practice’.. and what does ‘practice’ imply? Keeping at it!
All the very best
James
Bob Collier
June 26, 2013It seems to me that a major reason why most people don’t realise that so called “hypnosis” is a natural part of being human and with us all the time, is that when they see or hear the word “hypnosis” what they imagine is actually hypnotism – that is, the art and skill of deliberately creating a hypnotic experience in another person, as in, for example, the ‘turban and swinging watch’ of the stage hypnotist or the (often somewhat ponderous) relaxation of the body and mind favored by hypnotherapists. That, I would say, is where the general misconception comes from that to hypnotise myself I need to replicate what a stage hypnotist or a hypnotherapist does in some way.
I noticed when I was researching for my guide to hypnosis mp3s a couple of years ago that the distinction between hypnosis – the hypnotic experience itself – and hypnotism – the act of deliberately creating a hypnotic experience – was rarely made. Most hypnotherapists I read didn’t make the distinction at all. As an outsider to the profession, it seemed crucial to my understanding of hypnosis to be aware that hypnosis and hypnotism are two different things, yet most commonly the word “hypnosis” was used to describe them both, even when, in my perception at least, hypnotism, not hypnosis, was clearly the topic.
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June 28, 2013Hi Bob
Yes, the distinction between hypnosis and hypnotism is very useful. I have not made the distinction in the past as I don’t hold a belief in a signature state that could be called ‘hypnosis’, so I have tended to just use the one term to refer to the process. However, I am now starting to find myself wanting to refer to the result of the hypnotism in some way… or at least reference people’s everyday experience as being the result of hypnotic processes at play in everyday life. In this context it suddenly becomes useful to distinguish between the process (or processes) and the result. ‘Hypnotism’ and ‘Hypnosis’ could certainly fit the bill here!
All the very best
James
Debbie Pitzel
June 30, 2013Thank you for the opportunity to revisit the importance of internal dialogue. Changing my own “self talk” over the years has made the most important improvements in my life, thus far. I share the concept with people whenever the opportunity arises. I see it has been popularized recently, in a way that I feel is not as helpful as it could be. It is presented in a way that ANYTHING
Debbie Pitzel
June 30, 2013(sorry – computer glitch caused only part of my comment to be submitted)
Continued ….
can be achieved if we just think it. I believe this creates expectations that are so far from our “world view” (to quote you, James) that we cannot believe and cannot act upon those thoughts. For example: Old Thought: “I am fat and horrible and hate how I look.” Changed Thought: “I am Size 0 and am a cover model.” I find it is more helpful to “neutralize” negative self talk and replace it was self talk that is more believable and achievable, so more incremental improvements can be made, for example: Most Helpful Thought: “I am making better choices about my health and fitness every day. I like how I look more each day and will reach my goals.”
Understanding the “world view” concept is so fundamental in change and I am thankful you have explained this so well in many of your videos!
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July 5, 2013Right on, Debbie.
When working with clients, I encourage ‘upgrades’ in self-talk/beliefs etc. An ‘upgrade’ is a small change that is enough to make a difference, but not so much as to be ‘resisted by the system (the broader worldview).
Across a short time, a series of ‘upgrades’ can equal to a big change that wouldn’t not have workable in one jump.
My advice to people is NEVER try and convince anybody of anything – it rarely works – and that includes yourself! So much advise self talk amounts to attempts to ‘convince’ oneself through repetition. In altering beliefs, the best approach, IMO, is through upgrades, HOWEVER…
One of the quickest wins one can make with self talk is in how we use it to direct ATTENTION rather that using it to change a belief. A change in attention cannot jar with worldview (although it can jar with habit) yet it can make an enormous difference to outcome an access to personal resources.
J
Ellen James
August 1, 2013Thank you James, this makes perfect sense.
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