Rapport and Beyond – The Relational Aspects of Hypnotic Communication

Hi All

A  couple of weeks back (following the ‘Rapid Induction Rituals’ teleseminar) I got a question from one of the listeners regarding Rapport:

Must you be in good rapport at the start for good results?

Rapport is a pretty big concept in many NLP circles, so I thought it might be good to record my answer as a video…. here it is!


And if you would like to find out more about the The Fundamentals of Non-Verbal Influence, you can watch the video HERE!

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About The Author

James Tripp

Hypnotist and Transformative Facilitator. Creator of Hypnosis Without Trance.


  • J. Crit Harley, MD, C.Ht.

    December 6, 2012

    Another great video that is packed with useful information. Thanks. jch

  • Doc Regal

    December 6, 2012

    Great topic, James. To prepare for the hypnotic process my check off list for participants is are they ready, willing, able and eager. Using your terms, I’d say that trust establishes willingness. Authority directs ability. Responsiveness indicates eagerness. And, respectfulness creates, maintains and sustains rapport. By adding preparedness to your list (which motivates readiness), we go to five items. Of course, you said there are other elements to consider. So now I wonder who else can add to this growing list.

  • James Malone

    December 6, 2012

    Thank you for sharing this, I find your contributions to hypnosis education to be fresh, original and insightful.

  • Laura

    December 6, 2012

    James, another excellent topic. The four aspects of non-verbal communication you mentioned, trust, authority, responsiveness and respect are also important elements of any therapeutic approach.

    In my counseling psych masters courses, we often form up into dyads and triads to practice. I recall in my first course, my partner, who was in the ‘therapist’ role at the time during our practice session, took something I said and made a sarcastic comment about it (breaking the respect element). As it turned out, not surprisingly, she decided at the beginning of our second year of studies that she wasn’t suited to the profession and dropped the program.

    It may be a statement of the obvious, but I’ll say it anyway: without respect, the other three elements are irrevocably undermined. Trust is broken, authority becomes bullying, and responses are inappropriate. Our clients often come to us in a vulnerable state, and showing respect in and of itself can be experienced as palliative.

    • admin

      December 7, 2012

      Excellent point regarding respect Laura. I think it is an important part of all effective influential communication, that often gets overlooked by people who are desperate to get what they want! (and this happens in many contexts in life).

      All the very best


  • Colin

    December 6, 2012

    I wish my boss were ‘happy high status’… Another great video James!

  • laurencel

    December 7, 2012

    This site has great material…but I wish I could see more actual demonstrations of you doing hypnosis. People can learn so much by absorbing themselves in other people’s performances. Certainly language patterns can rub off easily when you notice people using them as opposed to being taught them formally. Have you ever considered uploading a lot more performances of yourself instead of simply teaching formally?

    Great material either way James.

    • admin

      December 10, 2012

      Hi Laurencel

      There are lots of demonstrations here on the blog right here: Hypnosis Demonstrations

      There are currently 22 videos in total in this category, so be sure when you scroll down you click the ‘previous entries’ link

      All the very best


  • Nic_Oliver

    January 3, 2013

    Second attempt at replying as the internet seems to have gobbled up my first one!

    Firstly, a happy, peaceful, prosperous and fulfilling 2013 to you and yours!

    I’ve just bought the three product combo and am really excited as you echo a lot of what I feel about hypnosis, NLP and clean language.

    I’m so glad that you say that the most important thing in getting rapport is the practitioner’s intent.

    This is a favourite rant of mine! Rapport is overly emphasised and mistaught by a lot of people. IMHO, too many people have confused effect and cause. They look at people who are clearly very comfortable with each other and notice that these people mirror each other’s body language. They then teach that is you want rapport, mirror the other person. Wrong! It’s an output, not an input!

    BTW – how long was your first video?

    • admin

      January 5, 2013

      Hi Nic

      Thank you for making the purchase – I hope you will get a lot from it!

      How long was the first video? LONG! 😀

      There is so much more to say about Rapport, and how it works within the broader context of Status Dynamics as a whole, but that is a whole other post (possibly for a whole other website!) or probably even a whole other book!

      All the very best


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