Key Skills for Transcending Fear and Developing Groundedness!

This webinar is gold. Shame we are not taught this stuff as we are growing up but I guess it creates a different kind and level of investment to have to learn about it ourselves somehow.

“World-class-social-anxiety-er” – lol 😀 reminds me of Albert Ellis saying “now, some of you, who are REALLY talented screwballs…”

Mostly I like the ‘trance’ conceptualization, but I’ve always wondered about whether it would be better for it to be some kind of verb, since it’s not a solid state to me but some kind of flux / process which is changing subtly from moment to moment anyway, because everything does. Also, I know you choose the word because it is evocative and charged, and I like that too, but again there is a part of me wondering if it is that reassuring to be in the midst of a fear trance and say “I am in a trance”. If you think about it, the idea of being ‘in a trance’ seems scary to a lot of people in and of itself. It also makes it seem like something you have to “get out of” instead of a process which could flow somewhere else if you redirected it. I don’t know, just a few thoughts. But overall I think it’s a really useful concept and has already helped me out a lot.

The other thing I’m not sure about is your thought / thinking distinction – to say thought is something that’s not useful and thinking is something that is doesn’t work for me personally, for example thought is one of the three principles, we often use it very positively “I will give that some thought and let you know”, thoughtfulness can be a good thing, etc. And thinking isn’t always positive, “obsessive thinking”, “he isn’t thinking straight” to give a few examples. I like your distinction but I’m just wondering if there are other words to use. But that’s only my personal view, maybe everybody else disagrees with me 🙂 Or maybe that’s irrelevant.

Anyway, I’m listening to Beyond the Subtle Fears as well at the moment and enjoying that too. I thought I was pretty much over these kind of fears because I used to experience them so incredibly strongly and frequently that the contrast is great, but now I am more tuned in, I am realizing I am still doing it very frequently, just more subtly. But even then it’s often quite overt. Damn! Not sure how I missed that, but thanks for helping me to re-calibrate and continue this process.